easier said than done friend . present day it has become easier to handle since my wife and i have frank discussion and open communication . she joins me in browsing this forum as well and knows about my incest fantasies . she gives me leeway in giving attention to my mother and doesnt mind if i spend weekends with my mother . she even jokes if i seduced my mother this weekend . but not everyone gets that understanding wife right .. my wife cannot bear my mom but not because of my relation with her but typical desi mil and dil .. but women tend to be clingy and the truth of the matter is once you do end up having sex with your mom ,she wont seem as beautiful ,she will seem clingy , you wont be as attracted to her .. anyone who says otherwise is lying according to me.Yes mother's want our love so make her love.. not all mothers are some some are very supportive too.. and mostly mother do make her son happy so whenever you stop having sex with her she aslo stop it she not like a others women who blackmail you about your past with her.. but because of your that close bond she needs your emotional support and you should give her that.. I we become incest for her love to make her feel good so we support her if there is no sex also.. after marriage it's difficult but not impossible to make mom happy.. you want feel for her because you love her so it's doesn't matter that you are having sex before marriage or not after marriage there is always a little banter between your wife and mom... But we have to manage that.